Assertiveness IV

Others na behavior can influence our ass behavior therefore we have to handle na from others. Na consists of statements that are tentative, apologetic or self-demanding and there are forms of na which are difficult to detect. When we respond assertively to na we have to retain control our feelings to do that we should being aware of how the other person’s na can influence your own feelings. Then we should have a sound inner dialogue with ourselves.

When we have to deal with na emotions of others try to avoid them and try and get the other person to behave assertively.

To be an ass person we should be ass upwards that means when we dealing with people without considering our position we should express our ideas. For that we should know about how seniority is viewed. To identify that whether we are treading too warily ass upwards we have to check the beliefs we hold about the seniority. There are several beliefs which are barriers to being ass upwards.

We have to remove negative consequences as well to be an ass person. If we are fear to speak up and think that unpleasant things will happen we should change it to be an ass person. By including sound inner dialogue and no fear to mention our own ideas will reduce the fear of negative consequences.

We have to know about our rights and we should decide what kind of responsibility we have to take, and this is a way to negotiating on excessive workloads. When there is increase of work load we don’t have to be under pressure because we have right to negotiate workload but we should aiming to win/win outcome. Having sound inner dialogues we can mentally prepare to handle the situation assertively.

It is risky when we try to raising our workload as a distinct issue, to have a succeed approach to this we need to get timing right, be clear what is acceptable and be clear about our workload.

We have several rights when we are a member of a meeting which we should know to contribute assertively in meeting. Sound inner dialogues also helps for that and also specific behaviors, wider considerations and some sort of nonverbal behavior in meetings.

There are several things how the assertiveness can help to handle future changes in such a way that feel more productive and less stressful. High uncertainty cause to have na and agg therefore we have to handle uncertainty in order to be ass.

Blaming others leads us to have agg behavior and blaming ourselves cause to have na behavior. We should keep blame behaviors to minimum to clarify our own mind and include sound inner dialogues. This helps us to handle our unthinking blame mind mode.

Stress is more demands are placed on us than we feel able to meet. There are several physical and behavioral signs of stress. There are things which cause to stress in us, we have to manage stress through ass to handle stressful situations. And also we have to make sure that we are not creating stress for others.

To improve our assertiveness we should choose the right situation, then prepare for situation, behave assertively while situation and reviewing situations after wards. And also we should be able to handle unexpected situations to be an assertive person.